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RABBI SALLY PRIESAND TO CO-OFFICIATE AT 5773/2012 HIGH HOLY DAY SERVICES
Take a Chance on the Future, and Change your Life
No one knows what the future holds for us. We can look forward with optimism and prepare for a bright future, understanding that not everything may go according to plan. Or we can hold onto the past, not because it is our best course of action, but because it is what we know and what makes us feel comfortable.
In the Parsha Shelach L’cha, the Israelites are presented with the choice to face an uncertain future and go bravely into a new land, or to go back to what they know, slavery in Egypt. The choice was not an easy one. The future held the promise of the land of milk and honey … but not without cost. They may have to fight for their right to claim this land. And even with God’s help, some believe that this cannot happen. They would rather retreat back to Egypt and live out their lives as slaves.
Making a change in your life may not be as dramatic a choice as this biblical story. But may be just as troubling. There are those who stay in bad relationships or bad jobs for fear that the unknown may be worse. They have little hope and less optimism that their future holds anything but sorrow. It takes courage to make life changes. It takes optimism to give that choice for change a chance to flourish and improve your life and affirm your decision.
The congregants of TSS, faced with a change and a choice to improve their spiritual life, had the courage to make that first step. Coming up on the first anniversary of our new Temple, I would say that this particular choice for change has proved successful. We did it! We went forward into an uncertain future. We pioneered a new way of worship. We did this together and created something wonderful.
Say “No” to Negativity!
In Shelach L’cha Moses appoints twelve men, one for each if the tribes to scout out the land that God has promised the before they try and conquer it. Forty days later the spies return and say the land is “flowing with milk and honey” but that the people are too mighty to conquer. Two spies disagree Caleb and Joshua, who claim with God’s help the Israelites can claim the land. The people hearing what most of the spies say rise up against Moses and demand to go back to Egypt.
Angered by the people’s lack of faith God wants to destroy them and start over with Moses. Moses calms God down enough so that God commutes the sentence but does require the Israelites to wander the desert for forty years, until all the men who complained died off and the only ones left would be Caleb and Joshua.
What can we take from this Torah Portion. God does not like complainers,, nor does God like negativity. As said by our former Vice President Spiro Agnew no one likes nattering nabobs of negativity. Looking at the world with such a terrible attitude is corrosive it leads to organizational problems as well as personal problems. Now God wanted to impose the seemingly worst punishment God could impose that of death to the naysayers but once again Moses intercedes and God then makes the people wander in the desert for 40 years and does not permit them to enter the promised land. This is an allegory for what happens to those who always find fault. Good things and opportunities can be right in front of them and they can not see it or participate in it.
Negativity leads to fear and anxiety not happiness, enthusiasm and courage. The Israelites had the worst punishment seeing the promised land and never experience it. As we enter into our second year of existence let us remember that TSS has accomplished a great deal in a short time. We have served our membership with care and concern, and have created a positive prayer experience. Let us not think of the things we still need to do in a negative light let us always think of them as opportunities and challenges so that we can fully be in “the land of milk and honey”.
Four First Women Rabbis
This last Sunday I went to a program at my former congregation in Tinton Falls, NJ on the Jersey Shore. The program was entitled Four First Women Rabbis, and included a round table discussion with Rabbi Sally Priesand, America’s first female Rabbi and the representative from the Reform Movement, Rabbi Sandy Eisenberg Sasso, from the Reconstructionist Movement, Rabbi Amy Eilberg from the Conservative Movement, and Rabba Sara Hurwitz from the Orthodox Movement. Each woman spoke about their experiences and how Rabbi Priesand led the way for all of them and the rest of the women in positions of leadership in the Jewish community.
The moderator spoke of their courage but each woman said they did not feel courageous they just wanted to be Rabbis. I have found this in discussions with all people who perform acts of heroism, they all say they were just doing what they wanted to do or what needed to be done. Each Rabbi said once the path was opened up by Sally they had some guidelines on how to proceed with their journey. They all spoke of their male colleagues who were supportive of them and of their mentors.
They told of supportive parents. We, as parents have an important job in encouraging our daughters to succeed in life. Girls can do anything in this world, and you certainly can do anything that is important to you, those were the words uttered by the parents of these extraordinary women. Even though their parents did not understand their choices they were there to support their daughters in the decisions they made.
The Rabbis spoke of their desire to serve the Jewish people, they were not driven by dreams of being rich and famous. It seems in our society today people want just to be famous and rich, that is the goal. These women became ‘famous” for their accomplishments not just because they were darlings of the media.
It has been forty years since Rabbi Priesand was ordained in Cincinnati,Ohio at the Hebrew-Union College. There was sexism, Sally could not find a job when she graduated she was the last in her class to find a pulpit. She began her career as the assistant Rabbi at Stephen Wise Free Synagogue in NYC. That is the synagogue that was begun by Rabbi Stephen Wise in response to the problems he had as Rabbi of Temple Emmanuel in NYC. Rabbi Wise was a great orator and was one of the first people to understand the horrors of the Nazis.
During his employment at Temple Emmanuel the board expected Rabbi Wise to show his sermons to the board before he delivered them, in response to that Rabbi Wise formed his own synagogue. This was obviously a synagogue founded on the principles of equality and freedom. Although they hired Sally out of school they did not make her the senior Rabbi when Rabbi Ed Klein the senior at Stephen Wise died while Sally was serving as his assistant. It took many years for women Rabbis to be accepted in a Senior Rabbi position. As in society in general women clergy are not on equal footing when it comes to compensation.
I served with Sally for six years at Monmouth Reform Temple. We were the first ordained all woman pulpit in the country. I can attest to the fact of her many Rabbinic gifts. She is one of the finest pulpit Rabbis we have. I can also say the other panelists were extraordinary as well. One does not blaze a path unless the passion and commitment is there. It was inspiring for all those attending to be in the presence of women so committed to Judaism and the Jewish people.